Today, I had a conversation about adult expectations when interacting with children. The person shared that sometimes family doesn’t share the same beliefs (which is true) and may even talk negatively about us for putting our foot down when it comes to our kids.
My belief is for the sake of our children and their future, we must break unhealthy behaviors that we were exposed to and monitor who we have our children around (family or friends). I believe it’s a season of setting standards and holding tight with them. We can’t be afraid of hurting adults feelings, when their actions hurt our children and many times bring up old wounds from our childhood. Additionally, the very folk who hurt people do it, whether intentionally or not, because they are hurt. Unfortunately, hurt and pain is all too common for many of my loved ones.
Parents and loved ones, the world is hard enough to live in by itself without us hurting one another. We can’t treat our children like the world does. We should desire to do better because we know better.
Folks can say what they want about me. Honestly, I don’t care. No matter the relationship:
-Don’t curse our children or use profanity around them. If you can’t express yourself without cursing for a few minutes or hours, that’s a problem.
-Don’t ever call them out of their names. Ever!
-Don’t watch shows or talk about things that are for mature audiences around them.
-Don’t speak negatively about me, their Dad or any of their loved ones around them. Better yet, leave negativity at the door all together.
-Don’t speak disrespectfully to them. If you can’t express yourself without being hurtful to them including calling them names or taunting them, then keep your mouth shut. Speaking down to kids does not build them up or make them better prepared to handle the world. It hurts and hardens them.
-Sex offenders are not allowed around our children. Sounds odd but people have children around molesters and predators all the time. Not on my watch.
And that’s just a few. 🤷🏾♀️
I am extremely passionate about making this world a better place, starting with me, how I live and what’s allowed in my home. I’m far from perfect and I mess up but I will keep doing my best to be my best. I have 2 kids of my own and many others looking up to me and learning from me. They are way more important than me fitting in or compromising our values.
May God’s peace and grace be with you as we keep pressing forward in faith.
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